Many couples are in a marriage where the implicit contract is “The most important thing is that we each do exactly what we want at all times.” The corollary to this is “We would never ask each other to do anything that the other didn’t want to do.” This is all well and good when couples are in their 20’s, but it breaks down at two critical life stages: having kids and the woman’s sex drive decrease over time. https://www.drpsychmom.com/the-we-do-what-we-want-marriage-and-why-it-leads-to-sexlessn